A woman had shared her story on Reddit. She had stated that her fiance wanted her to pay the restaurant bill of himself and his friends, as he was mocking her for she was making more money than him.
She had stated that she got %30 raise on her payment, and her fiance started to talk about it. “I (F33) have been engaged to my fiance (M37) for 5 months. We don’t share finance because that’s what he wants. I got a raise on my salary. now I earn 30% more than he does and I noticed that he’s been using this to ask me to pay for him and his friends. Whenever I say “no” or “why should I pay for this?” he’d respond with “the 30% that’s why”. he acts as if the 30% is unfair or that I’m not deserving of it.”
As he had tricked her several times to pay for the meals, she had stated before going out that she wil not pay this time. “Several times he has tricked me to pay for his and his friend’s meals by asking me publicly. Let me say that I’m too nice to say “no”, I hate confrontation especially when we’re at a public place like a restaurant so I just grin and pay. Last tuesday, he asked me to join him and his buddies for dinner. I told him from the start I wasn’t paying for their food and he shouldn’t expect me to. He said he “got this” and “no worries”.”
Then in the middle of their meal, her fiance had whispered her that she would pay again, and she said no. “We got to the restaurant. Met his friends, ordered food. And in the middle of the meal he leaned in and whispered that I would be paying for everything he and his friends ordered. I got so mad I whispered back “noooo” but he probably relied on me not causing a scene in public and infront of his friends. he said “you have enough money you could pay for everyone’s food, 30% remember?”.”
She got mad, and went back home after paying her own bill. “I was fuming inside. instead of reacting negatively and losing my temper. I waited til the bills arrived (they were already split from the start when we first ordered) I paid for mine then I excused myself to the restroom. I then sneaked out from there, got into my car and went home.”
Then her fiance had called and texted her, asking where she was, and she stated the situation. “I started getting phonecalls from my fiance then texts asking where I was. I texted back saying I didn’t appreciate how he put me in this situation and basically tricking me into paying for his and his friends food. I told him I went home then stopped replying.”
Then she stated that they had an argue about the issue, “An hour later he came and started yelling at me calling me selfish, irrational, cheapskate and childish for sneaking out like that and leaving him stuck with a bill he could not pay (He had to call his brother for help). We had a loud argument then he walked out. His friends didn’t speak to me on this but he told me they’re disappointed in my behavior and are telling him to take time and “reflect” on the type of woman he’s gonna be married to.”
She wanted for advice from other Redditors, and here are some of the replies.
