I put in my vacation request long ago.
Last week, my coworker asked if I’d swap my vacation with her.
I said that I’d booked everything and thought that the discussion was over.
The next day, our boss called me into an unscheduled meeting and said, “I’ve been asked to reconsider the vacation schedule. Can you be flexible?”
I blinked. “Flexible how?”
He folded his hands like a principal about to scold a student. “Marina’s father is undergoing surgery next week. She says your vacation could be pushed to next month, and that it would really help her.”
I sat there stunned. Marina hadn’t said anything about her dad’s health. She just mentioned wanting to take her partner on a surprise trip to Miami. I remember her pulling up hotel options on her screen while we were on a Zoom call.
I opened my mouth, then closed it.
Was she lying? Or was I being petty?
“I already bought non-refundable tickets,” I finally said. “And my sister’s flying in from Vancouver to meet me halfway. This isn’t just me being difficult. I’ve had this on the calendar for months.”
He nodded slowly. “I understand. But sometimes… we have to support each other as a team.”
I left the office feeling like I’d just been scolded for not donating a kidney.
That night, I called my sister, Tala. “Is it terrible if I don’t swap my vacation?” I asked. “Apparently it’s some kind of moral failing now.”
She laughed. “You’re asking the wrong sister. I once hid a chocolate bar in Mom’s winter boots and pretended it melted there on its own. You’re fine.”
I relaxed a little. Tala always knew how to ground me.
Still, something about it gnawed at me.
So I asked Marina point-blank the next day. “Hey, I heard your dad’s having surgery next week. Hope he’s doing okay?”
She blinked, then looked away. “Oh… yeah, it’s complicated. Nothing major. Just… he needs support.”
Her tone didn’t match her words. It was the kind of vague response people gave when they were trying not to get caught.
That night, I did what I’m not proud of—I looked her up on Instagram.
Her latest story? Tagged in a new resort in Cabo. Not next week. Now.
I sat there staring at the screen, the beach in the background, her clinking glasses in a pool with her partner.
Surgery, my foot.
I screenshotted the story and stared at it for an hour. I wasn’t going to send it to my boss—at least not yet.
But I did go back to work the next morning with a quiet resolve.
When my boss brought it up again—“Have you thought more about being flexible?”—I replied, “Marina’s on a beach in Cabo. I saw it on her public social media. So I assume her dad’s doing better?”
His face went blank. “Cabo?”
“Cabo.”
That afternoon, Marina suddenly had “food poisoning” and left work early.
And two days later, she was “working remotely” from an undisclosed location.
But here’s where the twist comes in.
I took my vacation. Tala and I met up in Sedona, and the trip was amazing. We hiked, stargazed, and talked more deeply than we had in years.
Then, on the third day, we stopped at a roadside diner. Our waitress—a tired woman with gentle eyes—handed us our bill, and I recognized the name on her name tag.
Marina’s mom.
I froze.
I didn’t say anything, but as we walked to the car, I looked her up again.
Sure enough, Marina grew up one town over. Her parents divorced when she was thirteen. Her mom never remarried. Her dad? Lived in Florida.
Suddenly it made sense. She wasn’t lying about her dad. But she wasn’t going to take care of him either. She probably just used his name as a shield.
She could’ve just asked for the time off. Maybe she was afraid of being judged for choosing herself. Maybe she thought no one would say yes unless there was a tragedy involved.
When I got back to work, I didn’t confront her. I didn’t say a word. But something in me shifted.
We all want understanding, but sometimes we’re so afraid of being honest that we manipulate instead. And maybe that’s what this whole thing was about—not a vacation, but the fear of being told no.
So I started leading with honesty myself. When I asked for a half day last week, I told my boss, “I just need some mental breathing room.”
He said yes. No questions.
Sometimes, it really is that simple.
Life lesson? You don’t need a crisis to justify your peace. You just need to believe you’re worthy of it.
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