After I proposed, my girlfriend wants to quit her job and stay at home.Is She Gold Digger? A young guy faced an unexpected problem after proposing to his fiancée. He wondered whether her sudden desire to leave her work and become a “stay-at-home fiancée” was real or motivated by money. The 30-year-old IT researcher met his 26-year-old marketing professional fiancée at work two and a half years ago. Initially, he was impressed by her organizational abilities and patience, which matched his…
After I proposed, my girlfriend wants to quit her job and stay at home.Is She Gold Digger?
A young guy faced an unexpected problem after proposing to his fiancée. He wondered whether her sudden desire to leave her work and become a “stay-at-home fiancée” was real or motivated by money.
The 30-year-old IT researcher met his 26-year-old marketing professional fiancée at work two and a half years ago. He was immediately drawn to her organizing abilities and patience, which matched his ADD.
Their romance grew swiftly. They first spoke about money when they moved in together. They were surprised to learn he made over fifteen times more than her. He promised to pay most of their joint costs, helping her pay off college loans.
Everything went well until the engagement. Though she’d never sought expensive presents, she insisted on a nearly $15,000 diamond ring, saying she’d wear it forever. Although her constant references of its expense made him uncomfortable, he ultimately gave in.
She surprised him with a proposal soon after their engagement. She sat him down and told him she was quitting her job to arrange their wedding. He chuckled thinking she was kidding but realized she was serious.
He raised concerns about her college debts and future plans, but she said, “We’re a team now.” She said her pay was low compared to his. He said she was giving up her freedom too quickly, while she accused him of being unjust and unsupportive.
He asked Reddit whether a “stay-at-home fiancée” existed, confused. Many responded instantly, accusing his fiancée of money motives and warning him of financial mismatch. Due of her pricey ring and sudden desire to leave employment, others called her a gold-digger.
He had an honest chat with her again after the severe comments. Over a quiet meal, she admitted to feeling overwhelmed, worn out, and devalued at work. She said she wanted to enjoy the event rather than worry it. She vowed to work after their honeymoon, either for a Master’s degree or a position with more consistent hours, to soothe him. She refused to be a trophy wife.
He was glad to understand her viewpoint. Despite the warning signs, he trusted his intuition and her honesty. However, several Reddit users advised him to consider a prenuptial agreement and warned that she may never work again.
Despite his doubts, he trusted his judgment, hoping their love would survive any financial disputes.
