On a March rainy Tuesday, they put her in my arms and I thought, God, she has my nose. That was my first observation. Not her squirmy toes or little fists. Just her small, familiar nose pressed against my chest like she belonged.
By me, I reared her. Her father left early. said he “wasn’t wired for fatherhood,” whatever that means. All I had was her and late nights, parent-teacher meetings, parking lot panic attacks, and cheap macaroni dinners. Never regretted it.
Around her senior year, something changed. Sharper eye rolls. Silences lengthy. She didn’t want to talk about college, males, or anything else unfiltered.
I justified it as a phase. For her return.
Neither did she.
At 19, she left. No battle. No big departure. Message on the fridge: “Don’t worry. I’m good.” Nothing for three months.
I was finally ready to have the operation I’d delayed for a year, in a hospital gown with a heart monitor beeping like it had attitude. I Googled enough to know that “routine” doesn’t mean “safe.” The surgeon said it was routine.
So when she entered the room—unexpected, slimmer, with a tote bag and coffee—I felt something crumble and reassemble.
Would you sit with me? I grinned. At least till they accept me?
Down she gazed. She tugged her sleeve. While she spoke, my voice almost broke:
I’m unprepared for this relationship.
The nurse intervened. She softly took my hand, knowing how empty it was. Nodding indicated approval.
Something changed behind me when they wheeled me to the doors. Fabric rustled. She whispered my name.
Her hand then entered mine. Tentative. Cool. Unsteady.
“I didn’t mean it like that, Mama,” she added. Not knowing how to show up. Scared.”
Without the strength to speak, I grasped her fingers. Enough.
Hallway lights blurred above me. Everything reeked of antiseptic and lemon-scented floor cleanser. The nurse advised her to wait in the lounge, and I panicked. I resisted releasing her hand.
I did.
Passed hours. Perhaps minutes, but hospital time is odd. I saw her jacket on the chair near me as I woke up sluggish, with a sore throat and brain fog. Also, the half-empty coffee cup on the table. Last, she curled up in the corner, sleeping with her headphones, like a kid again.
Why I cried is unknown. Perhaps I had convinced myself she wouldn’t return. She was forever frightened by me. However, she existed.
She spent the week with me.
It started awkwardly. No dramatic heart-to-hearts. Small things. She brushed my teeth. She played phone music softly. Discussed her new bookstore job and how she made lentil soup from scratch. Sounded horrible, I told her. Her laughter.
While watching a cookery show in quiet on the fourth night, she commented, “I thought being close to you meant I had to become you.”
My response was delayed. Because I didn’t know what to say. “And now?” I said after a pause.
She gazed intently at me. I now realize I just knew you as my mom. Perhaps that worried me.”
That was unexpectedly challenging. She meant no harm—she just wanted to communicate.
I answered, “I get that.” “I think I forgot how to be anything else.”
I slept with a warmth in my chest for the first time in years. Maybe hope. Or just relief from not pretending.
The true twist came after discharge. The final paperwork was needed to depart the hospital. A different doctor entered while she was reading a magazine and I was half-dozing.
He said, “Excuse me.” Is Mrs. Cazacu here?
Confused, I nodded.
Was hesitant. “The tests were mixed up. Lab mistake. You’re good. Surgery wasn’t needed.”
Blinked. “What?”
He apologized swiftly for mislabeling. Scans were clean. Yes, the procedure went well, but it wasn’t necessary. They eliminated an unthreatening tumor. I was uncured.
Not sure whether to laugh or scream.
My daughter sat still. Have you gone through all this for no reason?
Her anger was expected. Angry. Weeks of worrying, nights staring at the ceiling scared I wouldn’t wake up. If for what?
She then suggested, “Maybe… Maybe it wasn’t wasted.”
Frowned. What you mean?
She folded the mag. I wouldn’t have returned if I hadn’t imagined losing you. I required waking up. Both did.”
Suddenly, I saw it.
Life sometimes sends false alarms to redirect you. Make you think. Notification of importance.
That day, we went home. The residence hosted her for two weeks. I burned eggs but appreciated the breakfast. Becoming best buddies took time. We texted every few days, though. Photos from the past. Rebuilding.
Months passed, At the bookstore, she invited me to read. I brought cookies and pretended not to cry when she called me mom. More often, she visited. Dinner, or just idle conversation on the porch.
“I used to be afraid that being like you meant giving up who I was,” she stated one night. I see the reverse now.”
I inquired about her meaning.
You persevered. Even when I pushed you away, you were you.”
That night, I found her 19-year-old message saying “Don’t worry.” I’m good.” Nearly threw it away. I turned it over. I saw a faint corner doodle for the first time.
“Just need to define myself. I adore you.”
She wrote that then.
Although the head tells it to be quiet, the heart sometimes remembers.
Still thinking about surgery. Non-essential. Pain, fear, and life’s peculiar way of slowing me down. What if I could undo it?
My opinion is no.
I got my kid back.
Aren’t we all wishing for that? Second opportunity. Homecoming cause. When someone finally wants to take your hand.
So I’ll conclude:
Not always does love arrive as expected. Sometimes diversions are needed. Mistimed. Hurt. But with patience and an open heart, it returns.
It will be worth the wait.
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