IVF, hormones, surgeries, prayers, diet changes—we did everything. We dedicated 12 years to parenthood. For 12 years, heartbreak followed heartbreak.
We rested. Grieved. Separated somewhat. We reunited somehow.
I tried again at 51. Felt crazy. Risky. Some part of me needs to know I gave it all.
It amazingly worked.
My hubby supported me during the difficult pregnancy. Every scan. Every appointment. Every 3am yearning. Built the crib himself.
Emergency C-section on the big day. I scarcely remember being wheeled in. I recall waking up to a nurse saying, “She’s perfect.”
Two hours later, my daughter and husband arrived.
Slowly walking in, he smiled but not enough to see.
He regarded our daughter. Look at me.
He stated, “Before I hold her…” I must first inform you.”
Heart fell.
“You mean what?”
He paused. He removed a folded packet from his coat.
I had DNA tested. I sent it a month ago. I got the findings this morning.”
I watched him. Why do that?
He was slow to respond. The envelope was opened with shaky hands, and his gaze examined the paper. His shoulders slumped.
“It says she’s mine,” he concluded.
I blinked. Wait…what?
“I—I was scared,” he sputtered. The reason I didn’t inform you was to avoid adding to your stress. Upon learning of your pregnancy after all these years, I was astonished. A thought occurred…
He need not finish. I understood him. He wondered it was his child after all the failed rounds and losses. He may have worried I had betrayed him. Actually, I hadn’t. I never would. I knew the fear. How years of sadness and disappointment may alter your psyche in unexpected ways.
I was too exhausted to cry or yell. I merely stared at him and replied, “And now?”
He stepped forward, tearful. I want to hold my daughter now. Will you let me?”
Somehow I softened. It might be hormones. Might have been love. It could have been knowing he stayed despite doubt. Keep building the crib. Still came.
So I nodded.
He held her and stared at her like he was seeing the sunrise for the first time. That made me think we might be okay. Maybe we’ll survive.
But life rarely goes straight.
A few weeks later, when the sleepless nights were piling up and we were adjusting to this new life, I realized he was distant again. He attributed it to stress. Work. Adjusting. I mostly believed him.
I heard his phone buzz one night while nursing in the dark. I spotted Lena, an unfamiliar name.
It remained unopened. I couldn’t. So I asked him the next morning.
He froze. A sigh. Someone from work. No big deal.”
But I knew. Always know.
After two weeks and one half-finished dinner, he confessed.
“It started years ago,” he added, looking down. We were falling apart. Before regaining proximity. It was unplanned. It just happened.”
Sitting, I was stunned. Our kid slept next door. We envisioned a miracle. Now this.
You still seeing her? I requested.
Shaking his head. “No. I quit when you became pregnant. I swear.”
“But you kept in touch.”
He nodded slowly. I didn’t know how to stop it. I wanted to avoid hurting anyone.”
Yet here we were.
I ordered him out. A while. I needed room. He packed a bag and cried while kissing our daughter goodbye. It was hardest watching him leave her.
The days after were raw and fuzzy. Crying, feeding, rocking. Sometimes I despised him. Moments I missed him. And occasionally both simultaneously.
A month passed. And another.
I found a note in the mailbox one morning. Absent return address. My name only.
Lena sent it.
Sorry, she wrote. I had no idea he was still after you. Thought you two were done. He said things that gave me hope. I see now I was an escape. Moved away. No more contact. May you both find peace. I regret my role.
Unsure how to feel. I wanted to be mad, but she spoke honestly. It may have stung more because none of this was a great nefarious conspiracy. Just broken people doing broken things.
Two more weeks passed before my husband dropped off some diapers he bought.
I admitted him. We chatted. Cried. He asked for a solution.
I delayed responding.
While holding our baby as she slept, I glanced at her small hands and thought, she deserves us both. I still love him. Despite our damage, we were still connected.
We tried.
We saw therapist. Long, difficult chats. Rebuilt slowly. Painful brick by brick.
We finally had honesty after years. Though imperfect, it was real.
Three years later, our daughter turned three. She has his eyes and my laugh. She calls us her besties.
Sometimes, when I see him reading her a tale or dancing with her in the kitchen, I think about the hospital. That dread. That confession.
I also recall his stay. That he came. People make mistakes, sometimes terribly, but they can evolve.
Love can be messy, I discovered. It can be dirty, bruised, and rebuilt. If it’s real and chosen again, even after the fall, it can be stronger.
So yes, there have been twists. Heartaches. Truths that nearly broke us.
We too had a miracle. She taught us to defend each other.
If you’ve ever felt like you question your worth, marriage, or future, realize that grief can lead to deeper love.
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