Before you yell at me, let me explain.
Our tiny tan Amstaff, Miso, is almost three years old. She’s never aggressive. Basically a tail-mounted cuddling machine. She fears the vacuum more than our toddler.
Levi refused to settle the other night. Overtired and cranky, he tossed in his crib. Salome had just worked a double shift, and I didn’t want to wake her up again. I hoped Miso could calm him.
So I put Miso on the floor by Levi’s crib. He lit up and petted her through the bars. On reflex, I picked up Miso and let her cuddle with him. Both fainted in five minutes. It was the calmest night in weeks.
But the next morning… Salome failed.
She went cold when she saw Miso on the baby monitor. No yelling. That terrifying quiet madness. She said I acted recklessly. That all her sweetness, Miso is an animal and Levi is a baby. She packed a bag and took Levi to her sister’s.
I’ve been texting her to explain. I even provided a photo of Miso cuddled up with Levi’s toy rabbit, looking sorry like she knows she messed something.
Salome replied with a single message: “You don’t understand the gravity of this situation.”
I doubt it’s simply about the dog anymore.
That text made me doubt myself. Rereading it, I wondered what else I missed. Salome had always been careful and strict about boundaries. This felt deeper. Like I eroded more than trust.
I called her twice that day. Direct voicemail.
On the third day of silence, I drove to her sister’s. Just talk—not cause a scene. When her sister, Reema, answered the door, she appeared exhausted. Not mad. Just depleted. She exited and closed the door.
“She’s not ready to see you yet,” Reema stated softly but firmly.
I didn’t mean to endanger Levi. I assumed it would promote sleep. All done.”
“I know,” she responded, looking down. “You broke a deal you didn’t know you made.”
That lingered. The contract I made unaware.
Salome sent me a lengthy message later that night. She reported her family’s terrier bit her cousin when she was five. Her parents covered up a nip, no irreparable damage. Instead of getting rid of the dog, they accused the cousin for yanking its tail. She recalls hiding under the table while her aunt cried in the hallway.
Things changed.
Salome was experiencing a buried memory not merely Miso on the bed. Without knowing it, I made her feel like history was repeating.
Next weekend, she agreed to meet at the park. Just Levi and her. I brought coffee, left Miso home.
Despite looking fatigued, Mom let me embrace Levi, which was a triumph.
We sat on a bench as Levi carried a half-eaten apple slice. Apologies. He apologized for the dog and for not asking why it hit her so hard.
After a moment, I admitted that I like to mend things quickly out of fear of being in the mess.
She regarded me intently. Then nodded.
“I do that too,” she responded. I need to know you’ll defend Levi as I do—even when I’m gone.
Not instant forgiveness. We did not ride into the sunset or return that night. She wished to return home quickly. But not all at once. We agreed to start therapy together and individually. Something to guide us away from repeating something we never requested.
Miso takes a dog bed outside Levi’s room. And honestly? It feels right. Salome tries, but she still flinches when Levi cuddles Miso too hard. I am learning that love is about honoring the unspoken as well as the huge gestures.
I let our dog sleep with our toddler believing it was harmless comfort. But what I learnt was that emotional and physical safety isn’t necessarily about feeling okay. Listen when someone says, “This scares me.”
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