When trying to educate our children the difference between right and wrong, parents frequently fail for a variety of reasons. One father learned that his daughter had bullied a fellow pupil who had cancer at school.
Things had advanced to the point where she even took off the girl’s wig. The father was enraged by this and decided to take matters into his own hands by punishing his daughter in a way that prompted debate and a variety of responses online.
After facing backlash for how he handled his bully daughter, the father eventually took down the post.
I have exclusive custody of my ex-wife’s 16-year-old daughter (she has since gone on with her new family). Recently, my daughter was disciplined at school for making fun of a fellow student who had lost her hair due to cancer treatment. Including removing her wig,” he said as he began his article.
I don’t think that even comes close to justifying her behavior, despite the fact that there appears to be some prior animosity between the two of them.
It turned out that they didn’t get along because his daughter was now dating the ex-boyfriend of the other girl.
“At some point the other girl mentioned how my daughter’s boyfriend was just using her for sex (this was actually a big shock to me as I had no idea she was sexually active) and called my daughter a sl*t,” the dad recalled.
“That’s what caused the incident involving the wig to escalate. Since my daughter began dating the alleged guy, they are said to have been fighting in class. Basically simply naive ‘he said, she said’ teenage babble.
After discovering what had occurred and what she had done, he gave his daughter two options to choose from in an effort to teach her a lesson. First, she demanded that he burn all of her tools, and second, she demanded that she go to the barbershop and get a bald haircut. The daughter chose the latter and shaved her head in order to go to school.
“…Everyone believes I went too far. Her mother attacked me furiously, claiming that it would make her the subject of bullying (kind of the purpose, instill compassion in her),” the father wrote.
He believed he had made the proper decision, despite the fact that few people shared his opinion. Many people took the opportunity to express their thoughts on the situation. “Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully,” one commenter remarked. I sincerely doubt this is the first time you’ve ‘taught her a lesson’ by abusing and humiliating her.
Someone else continued, “There’s a name for what you did. It is known as child abuse. Her electronics should have been taken away as punishment. It would have been fair to have grounded her. Her right to physical autonomy should not be violated, and she should not be made to feel ashamed. She probably won’t take anything away from it, and if anything, it could keep the bullying cycle going.
There were many who commended his parenting, though. “I wholeheartedly concur with your choice. Since you are her father, you have every right to act in this way; it is not abusive and reflects reality. Someone who supported the father wrote, “If she’s comfortable criticizing someone for something they have no control over, she ought to experience it for herself.
Another supporter said, “She will realize what kind of influence her acts had on the victim and that will teach her a very important lesson.
So what do you think? Do you consider the father’s punishment to be too harsh? Describe your thoughts in the comments section below.
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